They tell you to just “ignore” it, don’t click on the link, it’s not important. They make jokes about it, they post memes, and emojis when you ask about it. Well, I think you’re smart, and your natural curious instinct led you here, but your desire for the truth made you stay. But, ask yourself, why do they want you to ignore it, why don’t they want you to form your own opinion? Why does the accused not defend or explain himself, but only wants you to ignore it, so it goes away?
Why are the majority of those telling you to overlook his behavior male? If you’re a woman and you’ve been asked to ignore me, don’t. Ignoring it enables the abuser to get away without repressions. Ignoring it signals the abuser that his behavior is tolerated because no one cares enough to speak up.
Trust me, I know it’s hard to be the one who takes a stand, the one who publicly says “no, it’s not ok” and challenges those in charge. I’m not asking you to be that person. If you truly know in your heart that what happened wasn’t right, then nothing future is required of you. I could be your daughter, friend, mother, sister, or aunt. Your daughter, friend, mother, sister or aunt could be suffering from physical or emotional abuse right now. But these women are suffering in silence because they haven’t found the strength to reveal what’s being done to them.
Would these men that are laughing and telling you to “ignore” it feel the same if it was their daughter being abused by their partner? Probably not. So why are my words meaningless? Why does the fact that a woman, who was emotionally abused amuse them? Why do they protect the abuser? We’ve seen the stats, and the stories, we know how many cultures still embrace domestic violence. Why are we still so conditioned as a society to overlook psychological and physical violence against women? It’s only after a woman is maimed or murdered, do we care, and then we continue on as usual. Why don’t we demand better from those around us? The #1 reason why domestic violence isn’t reported is because of fear. Fear that I once felt.
The ones telling you to “ignore” it are the same ones you should be concerned about. Have they normalized behavior like this from Radu? Have they themselves emotionally or physically abused someone in the past or maybe even doing so currently? Perhaps, they have seen a parent be abusive? If what I’ve written about my experience doesn’t make you question the ones laughing, then perhaps you should revaluate your own level of acceptance when it comes to abuse.
Domestic violence:
- 30.3%, or about 1 in 3 women, have been physically assaulted by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
- 25.7%, or about 1 in 4 men, have also experienced physical assault by a partner sometime in their life.
- 24.3%, or about 1 in 5 women, experienced severe violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
- 13.8%, or about 1 in 7 men, had a life experience that involved severe violence using the same definition.
Emotional abuse:
- 48.4% of women have experienced at least one form of psychological aggression by an intimate partner during their lifetime.
- 48.8% of men have also experienced one of these forms of psychological aggression by a partner in their lifetime.
I’m just one of many that have found themselves here, but I’m not alone. “Perry” recently commended me for what I’ve done.
