I met JpBlaze back when BLT was still an active alliance. I had been on the K14 sever, and had always been interested in BLT, and IAMLEJND’s leadership. I admittedly was a fangirl of the alliance, and had always supported them. Many moons ago, I wanted to leave K14 and I ended up contacting JpBlaze about joining. I went through the whole interviewing process, met IAMLEJND and untimely joined. JpBlaze was always nice to me, always helpful, and always got me gold and other resources I needed to build up my account. I considered him a game friend, and ally at the time.
I’ve never expressed any sort of romantic feelings for him, and I actually thought he and LadyWhite were an item. But a few weeks after I joined, he started obsessively DMing me, and I started to notice that he was making little flirtatious comments, but I mostly ignored it. I’ve been playing online games for a long time, so I used to the typical harassing messages from male gamers. But ignoring it was the wrong decision, as his flirting started to turn crude, vile, and made me feel very uncomfortable. One night he talked about spanking my bare ass, turning it red and leaving his bruises. I told him that I didn’t like the way he was speaking to me, and to stop. This upset him, and he started accusing me of being overly sensitive, and telling me to “relax” and later “get the fuck over it”. I reiterated that I didn’t like it, even if he thought it wasn’t that serious. After this, I abruptly stopped talking to him.
One day during my relationship with Radu I noticed that he was playing League of Legends with JPBlaze and LadyWhite and I immediately went to him and asked how he could play games with someone he knew I had such a terrible history with. I never told him what happened with JpBlaze, as they had parted ways for many months, and I knew they shared LadyWhite in common, so I never elaborating on what happened, but he knew I wanted nothing to do with JpBlaze.
After I told Radu what JpBlaze had done to me, he said had he known what he did, he would have never played with him. But he then went on to dismiss it as just guys being guys and just harmless flirting, and in his eyes, it’s not that serious. Here was the guy I was dating, who wanted to marry me, telling me that JpBlaze’s words weren’t that big of a deal. Radu himself is a sexist, and doesn’t see women as his equal. He thinks that men are above us in every way possible, and that our only real value is cooking and proving sex. After he saw how upset I was, he later told me he would never associate with JpBlaze again. One week later, Radu and I had a fight, and two days after our fight, he was back to playing games with JpBlaze.
His words are inauthentic, and not genuine, nor real. Whatever he tells you at the moment is to pacify you. He doesn’t care about what truly affects the real you, and he will only attempt to satisfy your needs if the end means that he gets something that he wants from you.
